In socializing, and in particular with women, you have to be willing to take up space.
Being confident enough to take the spotlight for a minute or two is strong and healthy. You must be willing to do this. In the beginning, it might be uncomfortable but it does improve over time. You have a right to be on this planet, going for what you want, so don’t be scared to take up some space in a conversation.
I had to get used to the feeling of panic, nerves, anxiety and the like while telling a story, or flirting, or baiting…to get GOOD at that skill. If you lack social experience, it will feel very weird and awkward to take up space socially. You must get used to this.
Practice, practice, practice…