We go through life looking for happiness and then we find it in a girlfriend,
someone to enjoy our lives with. One day we wake up and it's all over , done,
finished and we don't know what to do or to say to get her back. We try
everything from sending flowers to cards and nothing is getting through to her
because in her mind she is done with you. What to do? We each know why this is
happening in our own situations and our stories vary .
We do have this in common we lost our girl and want her back. The cards and
flowers show your confession of guilt, nothing is wrong with giving flowers at
the right time. Giving flowers as soon as you break up is a common thing, so
it's nothing special. Most of us guys have done something to cause the break
up with our ladies and some have not. Of course she will be resistant when you
first try to get her back. Going on with your life and doing well is one of the
best ways of attracting your ex.
Keep in contact with her when she calls or texts you and don't bring up the
past, keeping the quarreling down is best. If at this point you still want her
back you will have to show her you've changed. When I said live your life and
do well, I meant just that . Show her by being that what you say you are, show
her you have improved in the areas she complained about in the past. You should
be sincere when doing this because feelings are at stake, yours and hers so be
careful. Being a living testament to yours words by action is very attractive
to women, sticking to your word is very important if you truly love her and
want to do the right thing.
Keep in mind sometimes it really is over and there is nothing that can be done
to save your relationship. But when you can make sure it is what you really
want, you can get her back and have a rude awakening as to why she is your ex.
Be careful what you ask for, but if you just must have her then by all means
claim her. She is yours if you do one small thing that really is the big
deciding factor. Be yourself, be the best you and love yourself first and then
you can love her, she will pick up on this by how you treat yourself.
Yes treat yourself well, don't stress you guys relationship even if you really
are, don't show it. Be the man in the relationship by doing what you say you
will do. Only a ungrateful woman would not appreciate that, if you say you love
her show her by being it.
Be what you say that is the best you can do. Doing your best and living well
will become a life habit so you can still win even if you lose the woman.
Friday, March 9, 2012
Friday, December 9, 2011
What if she has a boyfriend?
I finished a photo shoot for my new book with a stunning model on Thurdsay. After the shoot I sat down and interviewed her for about 20 minutes about what she saw me teaching and how it is being a stunning girl. If she isn’t your dream girl then she’s pretty damn close.
In the first clip I want to show you Jackie talks about when men tell her they have a goldfish after she says she has a boyfriend. This is a line that one of the bigger dating companies teaches.
As you can see this is a perfect example of what not to do. You have turned a friendly chat into something combative. As soon as you make your snarky comment she wants you gone.
What a waste of time and effort. Why upset a pretty girl for no reason. You know that models are friends with other models. Beautiful girls tend to know other beautiful girls. So why cut yourself out of the frame. It’s time to stop using weak lines.
If she has a boyfriend just ask what his name is. If she doesn’t really have one, this will short circuit her normal shield and get you into real conversation. If she does have a boyfriend you can find out how he got her. That is invaluable intel sucker!!!!
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
One Good Dating Tip: Take The Spotlight!
In socializing, and in particular with women, you have to be willing to take up space.
Being confident enough to take the spotlight for a minute or two is strong and healthy. You must be willing to do this. In the beginning, it might be uncomfortable but it does improve over time. You have a right to be on this planet, going for what you want, so don’t be scared to take up some space in a conversation.
I had to get used to the feeling of panic, nerves, anxiety and the like while telling a story, or flirting, or baiting…to get GOOD at that skill. If you lack social experience, it will feel very weird and awkward to take up space socially. You must get used to this.
Practice, practice, practice…
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Are You A Force, Or A Consequence?
Big question today.People are either one, or the other. Are you one who initiates, begins, imposes, imagines, creates, acts, DOES?
Or, are you one who responds, reacts, cowers, shifts, pulls back, refrains, regrets and puts off?
Do you suffer from the disease of “tomorrow”? ie:
I’ll do it tomorrowIt can wait til tomorrowIt will be simpler tomorrowI’ll feel better/like it tomorrowI’ll go talk to her tomorrow
Well, what is it?
One of my favorite topics here is “having a purpose” in life. In fact, as I am now rewriting my eBook “How To Get A Girlfriend” into a 4th Volume, I am particularly happy with the “purpose” section.
To pursue a purpose is the BEING of attraction. Fully engaged in something outside of yourself, some goal or aim, harnesses a man’s energy and focuses his life and lifestyle. A woman can sense this. She knows it within seconds of meeting you.
A man on a mission can be trusted, a man who isn’t, cannot. A man with an aim is empowered and engaged, a man who isn’t is needy and small.
Life is short. It takes balls to live the life you deeply feel is your own. It’s OK to be afraid. It’s not OK to let it win, or much less, let it win day, by day, by day, by day, by day…
It is a question of carving out some space of your own or morphing yourself into the tiny space given.
You are either a force, or a consequence. What are you?
One Good Dating Tip: When To Say “Can I Buy You A Drink?”
If a woman smiles at you from across the room, how do you approach her? She’s practically SCREAMING for you to come and talk to her. But, what is NOW the best way to begin the conversation?
Before you even begin to move towards her, remember to keep it simple and never do more than you really need to do.
Use the E/S opener.
The Environmental/Situational opener (E/S) is where we approach a woman with a rather simple question which can possibly lead to a longer, more interesting conversation. Some examples:
Nice bag, is that a new Gucci?Do you like this painting?Wow, that dance floor is packed!Boy this line is taking forever.Can I buy you a drink? (yes, you can say it…if she gives you a strong signal of interest…happy now?)The structure:
Notice the environment and pull a relevant question or comment from it that you pose to her. The ONE thing you know that you have in common with her currently is the CONTEXT of your surroundings. So, start from there. Simple and easy (as it should be).
If you are a physically attractive guy, this might be all you need to do at ANY point EVER socially. Or, if she gives you a big smile, or other obvious signal from across the room, then approaching with an E/S opener is BEST.
Remember, never do more than you need. If you have a strong “gut” feeling that she’s into you pose an E/S opener to her.
The E/S skill gets a lot of criticism as it is rather plain and unflashy. But, if she gives you a strong signal of interest, why would you do more? In other words, this CAN be a very effective skill, if used at the right time…
Stephen Nash
Project Hollywood (VIDEO): From Mel’s To Mayhem
The First PUA Summit, Project Hollywood, Spring 2004I was recently in LA, staying with my friend Cameron Teone, and we HAD to return to the Sunset Strip and revisit Project Hollywood.
While we were dining at Mel’s (where else?) we got the idea to quickly film the walk from the diner, up the hill, to the house. Often, we would have girls at the diner, and would “pull” (ugh) them to the house…I’ll let you figure out the rest from there.
Anyway, this little video shows the route from Mel’s to Project Hollywood. For fans of “The Game” this should fill-in some visual blanks for you.
Enjoy!
My Interview on the Barry Kirkey Radio Show
So, yesterday (May 13), I caught up with my old friend Barry Kirkey on his online radio show. The chat lasted for about 45 minutes.
He gets me to divulge the backstory of my breakup last year – which might be interesting to you. I talk about the “scene” in the home we shared when I returned from a business trip. It wasn’t pretty. We talk a bit about “Suicide Girls” (and why you should not date a Suicide Girl…) and other stuff.
We also dish about old tales from Project Hollywood (of course), Tony Robbins and poke a little fun at those who need it.
Enjoy – you can find it here:
Stephen Nash on the Barry Kirkey Radio Show
Have an awesome weekend…
Sn.
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