What if she has a boyfriend?

I finished a photo shoot for my new book with a stunning model on Thurdsay.  After the shoot I sat down and interviewed her for about 20 minutes about what she saw me teaching and how it is being a stunning girl.  If she isn’t your dream girl then she’s pretty damn close.

In the first clip I want to show you Jackie talks about when men tell her they have a goldfish after she says she has a boyfriend.  This is a line that one of the bigger dating companies teaches.

As you can see this is a perfect example of what not to do.  You have turned a friendly chat into something combative.  As soon as you make your snarky comment she wants you gone.

What a waste of time and effort.  Why upset a pretty girl for no reason.  You know that models are friends with other models.  Beautiful girls tend to know other beautiful girls.  So why cut yourself out of the frame.  It’s time to stop using weak lines.

If she has a boyfriend just ask what his name is.  If she doesn’t really have one, this will short circuit her normal shield and get you into real conversation.  If she does have a boyfriend you can find out how he got her.  That is invaluable intel sucker!!!!

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One Good Dating Tip: Take The Spotlight!

In socializing, and in particular with women, you have to be willing to take up space. 

Being confident enough to take the spotlight for a minute or two is strong and healthy.  You must be willing to do this.  In the beginning, it might be uncomfortable but it does improve over time.  You have a right to be on this planet, going for what you want, so don’t be scared to take up some space in a conversation.

I had to get used to the feeling of panic, nerves, anxiety and the like while telling a story, or flirting, or baiting…to get GOOD at that skill.  If you lack social experience, it will feel very weird and awkward to take up space socially.  You must get used to this. 

Practice, practice, practice…

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Are You A Force, Or A Consequence?

Big question today.
People are either one, or the other.  Are you one who initiates, begins, imposes, imagines, creates, acts, DOES?
Or, are you one who responds, reacts, cowers, shifts, pulls back, refrains, regrets and puts off?
Do you suffer from the disease of “tomorrow”?  ie:
I’ll do it tomorrowIt can wait til tomorrowIt will be simpler tomorrowI’ll feel better/like it tomorrowI’ll go talk to her tomorrow
Well, what is it?
One of my favorite topics here is “having a purpose” in life.  In fact, as I am now rewriting my eBook “How To Get A Girlfriend” into a 4th Volume, I am particularly happy with the “purpose” section.
To pursue a purpose is the BEING of attraction.  Fully engaged in something outside of yourself, some goal or aim, harnesses a man’s energy and focuses his life and lifestyle.  A woman can sense this.  She knows it within seconds of meeting you.
A man on a mission can be trusted, a man who isn’t, cannot.  A man with an aim is empowered and engaged, a man who isn’t is needy and small.
Life is short.  It takes balls to live the life you deeply feel is your own. It’s OK to be afraid.  It’s not OK to let it win, or much less, let it win day, by day, by day, by day, by day…
It is a question of carving out some space of your own or morphing yourself into the tiny space given.
You are either a force, or a consequence.  What are you?

One Good Dating Tip: When To Say “Can I Buy You A Drink?”

If a woman smiles at you from across the room, how do you approach her?  She’s practically SCREAMING for you to come and talk to her.  But, what is NOW the best way to begin the conversation?

Before you even begin to move towards her, remember to keep it simple and never do more than you really need to do.

Use the E/S opener.

The Environmental/Situational opener (E/S) is where we approach a woman with a rather simple question which can possibly lead to a longer, more interesting conversation.  Some examples:

Nice bag, is that a new Gucci?Do you like this painting?Wow, that dance floor is packed!Boy this line is taking forever.Can I buy you a drink? (yes, you can say it…if she gives you a strong signal of interest…happy now?)

The structure:

Notice the environment and pull a relevant question or comment from it that you pose to her.  The ONE thing you know that you have in common with her currently is the CONTEXT of your surroundings.  So, start from there.  Simple and easy (as it should be).

If you are a physically attractive guy, this might be all you need to do at ANY point EVER socially.  Or, if she gives you a big smile, or other obvious signal from across the room, then approaching with an E/S opener is BEST.

Remember, never do more than you need.  If you have a strong “gut” feeling that she’s into you pose an E/S opener to her.

The E/S skill gets a lot of criticism as it is rather plain and unflashy.  But, if she gives you a strong signal of interest, why would you do more?  In other words, this CAN be a very effective skill, if used at the right time…

Stephen Nash

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Project Hollywood (VIDEO): From Mel’s To Mayhem

The First PUA Summit, Project Hollywood, Spring 2004

I was recently in LA, staying with my friend Cameron Teone, and we HAD to return to the Sunset Strip and revisit Project Hollywood.

While we were dining at Mel’s (where else?) we got the idea to quickly film the walk from the diner, up the hill, to the house.  Often, we would have girls at the diner, and would “pull” (ugh) them to the house…I’ll let you figure out the rest from there.

Anyway, this little video shows the route from Mel’s to Project Hollywood.  For fans of “The Game” this should fill-in some visual blanks for you.

Enjoy!

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My Interview on the Barry Kirkey Radio Show

So, yesterday (May 13), I caught up with my old friend Barry Kirkey on his online radio show.  The chat lasted for about 45 minutes. 

He gets me to divulge the backstory of my breakup last year – which might be interesting to you.  I talk about the “scene” in the home we shared when I returned from a business trip.  It wasn’t pretty.  We talk a bit about “Suicide Girls” (and why you should not date a Suicide Girl…) and other stuff.

We also dish about old tales from Project Hollywood (of course), Tony Robbins and poke a little fun at those who need it. 

Enjoy – you can find it here:

Stephen Nash on the Barry Kirkey Radio Show

Have an awesome weekend…

Sn.

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One Good Dating Tip: Enlist A BFFF

By now you should know that planning parties, events and outings is the BEST way to meet women (didn’t know that?  Read “How To Get A Girlfriend” ).  For the *BEST* results you need to enlist a partner in “social” crime…

Your BFFF

Your BFFF=Best Female Friend…”Forever” (sorry, had to).

If you want to truly reach the highest of social heights, you need to enlist a hip, plugged-in woman to help you grow your social circle. It’s not “required”, but it does make a HUGE difference.

Ask yourself: If you received an invitation from “Joey” or from “Joey and Marie”, which would intrigue you more? If you knew a party was being thrown by both “Paul” AND “Vanessa”, wouldn’t it cause you to want to go MORE? Sure it would.

Why?

Women follow women, and men also follow women. Sure, some will come to your event and/or outing and sure, you can meet a lot of women without the BFFF. But, if you want to exponentially improve your social circle, social life and dating life…GET A BFFF.

Some rules for enlisting a BFFF:

Never hit on her;Never hit on her friends (with an exception, I will explain);Throw her some love by getting cool guys to come to the events/parties/outings (you scratch her back, she’ll scratch yours).

If she feels like she can meet cool guys in your circle, she will want to stay. As important, if she feels like the guys in your circle are cool and won’t make her or her friends uncomfortable, she will invite her attractive friends along.

All you need to do to cement her as the BFFF is do an event/outing together. Then, when it rocks (as it will), you say:

“Hey, let’s do this monthly – this was really fun”

And presto, you have yourself a BFFF.

Finally, if she invites a friend along that you want to meet…do it through the BFFF. Do NOT hit on her directly. Say something like:

“Your friend Alison is cute. I’d like to meet her. Do you mind if I intro myself or is it better through you?”

Yes, the honest route is best here. Your BFFF will have your back and make it happen. Women LOVE setting their female friends up with cool guys. Secure your partner in crime, and ride the fast track to some serious dating success.

Sn.

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